But if you’ve been mulling on it for a good while now and it seems like separation is the only option, it could be time to start divorce proceedings. But what should you do first? Here, Liverpool divorce solicitor Tracey Miller lays out the first three steps you should take.  

 

1.      Read up on how the divorce process works 

 

The more you understand about how divorce and the legal system works in the UK, the better prepared you’ll be for what’s to come.  

 

Read up on your rights and options, on everything from what will happen to the family home to arrangements for children – and of course, how financial matters will be settled. You’ll learn about the different stages of the divorce process, how long it takes, how much it costs and whether you’ll need to go to court.  

 

There are lots of places to start your research, but make sure you choose reliable resources. Websites such as Citizens Advice, the Government’s divorce portal, the Law Society and Resolution are all trustworthy, fact-based sources of information. You can also speak to a family lawyer for advice and answers to your questions.  

 

And remember, just because you’re reading up on divorce – it doesn’t mean you actually have to go through with it. You’re just ensuring you’re equipped with all the information you need to make an informed choice that’s right for you.  

 

2. Seek legal advice 

 

As above, this step is crucial for getting the information you need to make those big decisions. Moral support from friends is great and information from the internet is helpful, but legal advice tailored to your exact circumstances from a divorce expert is even better. 

 

A family lawyer can answer all of your questions, prepare you for the divorce process and offer valuable advice and support. They’ll help you ensure you have all your documents in order, guide you through key decisions and demystify the legal processes, jargon and paperwork along the way. Ultimately, a legal expert is someone you really want in your corner during a divorce.

  

3. Speak to your partner 

 

Even if the relationship is very strained, you and your partner will need to work together to make arrangements for children, property and money. At the very least, you’ll need to be able to agree on key matters.   

 

You might want to consider going to relationship counselling or mediation, which can help to open the lines of communication between the two of you. It can help you iron out issues, reach compromises and agree on a plan for the future.  

 

In some cases, counselling could help to rescue the relationship. With problems aired and hopefully resolved, you might both agree to give the relationship another go. But even if you do decide to go your separate ways, you’ll hopefully be able to communicate more effectively – this will be hugely helpful during the divorce.

  

For a free, no obligation consultation with one of our friendly Liverpool divorce solicitors, contact the Tracey Miller team today.